Did you know that people with self-love are healthier people?
If I could share my heart with you for a second…life is hard, but living life when you don’t have self-love is VERY hard.
I remember early in our marriage I never took the time to invest in myself. There was so much guilt around spending time and money on myself. My self-esteem was low, I didn’t have self-love. I always had a reason that I didn’t take time for myself but the truth was…I didn’t love myself. I didn’t feel I was worth the money or the time to take care of myself.
Eventually, headaches started, brain fog set in and I found myself getting short tempered. Caring for the children became an exhausting chore instead of an enjoyment. I didn’t feel good and it was taking a toll on my house hold. I guess I looked at it as selfish to invest in myself, but that was a lie. By not taking time and energy to eat healthy and listen to my body I ended up with a few short hospital stays and got a glimpse of what I was putting my family through.
My family not only wanted me to be healthy they NEEDED me to be healthy. My husband needed encouragement and support. My kids needed a great example to look up to and a mom who had the patience for tiny tot’s messes. By not having self-love I was damaging our finances, my marriage and my ability to be a good mother.
Self-love is really about accepting who you are, who the Lord made you to be and respecting yourself.
Have you listened to the way you talk to yourself? Do you call yourself stupid when you drop something or forget something? What do you say to yourself when you look in the mirror? Take some time to listen to how you are speaking to yourself, you may be surprised by what you hear.
People who love themselves don’t beat themselves up over mistakes.
When you have self-love, you care about what you are eating. You care about your body and therefore junk food doesn’t seem to fit who you are. You’re better than that. You deserve clean foods that will nourish you instead of poison you because you love who you are.
People with self-love create healthy boundaries in their relationships. Abusive people are kept at a distance because you deserve to be treated with love and respect.
People with self-love have great self-control. There YES to life is so loud that it’s not hard to say no to a destructive path. When you love yourself you don’t take a path of wrong choices because you value who you are. Your YES leads you onward.
People with self-love make choices with intention. Each choice is made with the question in mind “will this benefit me, is this good for me”. When we take care of our bodies and minds, we can use our talents and gifts to make the world a better place.
Self-destruction ruins families and communities. Self-love creates environments of freedom and health where people can thrive, create and explore.
Knowing your value and your worth will always result in a healthier body. People full of love have “happy” neurotransmitters bouncing around in their brain. These people are contagious, they are fun to be around.
Self-love is a journey of learning to let negative thoughts about yourself go.
We are all in this life together and our humanity is beautiful.
No one is perfect, you learn to love yourself with the flaws.
Start valuing yourself and watch your health improve. You start to care about what you eat, who you listen to, how much sleep you get, who is influencing you and most important…how you talk to yourself.
If you are having trouble controlling your thoughts, grab this free healthy journal and start tracking what your thinking.
Sources: https://www .psychologytoday.com/blog/nurturing-self-compassion/201703/8-steps-improving-your-self-esteem